Is Platonic Love the Same Kind of Feelings and Relations as Frienship?
What is platonic love indeed? Friendship or a clear spiritual feeling? Does it exist now? And can we recognize it? Or maybe, it was lost somewhere in the past, when high spiritual ideals really had their true value within the society?
Let us attempt at giving the basic definitions of platonic love. Wikipedia gives the following interpretation of the term: “Platonic love (Latin: amor platonicus) is a deep and spiritual connection between two individuals: within such a relationship there does not exist any form of sexual connection or sexual elements.” In its original Platonic form, this love was a sublimated pederastic eroticism. The force of desire was meant to be harnessed for pedagogical purposes, bringing the man and the boy closer to wisdom and the Platonic Form of Beauty. Plato emphasized chastity in the case of homoerotic attraction, but suggested that recognition of beauty in a person of the same sex may still serve the aim of inspiration. At the same time, Ambrose Bierce, or Bitter Bierce as the world calls this American satirist, may define Platonic love as “a fool’s name for the affection between disability and a frost."
Today the term admits relations between opposite sexes. But our modern society looks down on platonic relations, wondering suspiciously whether physical attraction between opposite sexes can be omitted, whether platonic relationships (love and friendship) really exist between a man and a woman. This misconception is brought by inability of the society to understand, that platonic love is another kind of relationship where sexual needs are transformed into other forms of attraction- this is a spiritual bond between two people. This is love that exists beyond body’s needs.
Platonic lovers are absolutely different type of lovers; they are not passive as many can think. In platonic relations emotional and intellectual spheres dominate over passion and physics. Such lovers enjoy each other’s company, thoughts and imagination. They idealize each other’s personal traits. Their love lives inside of them, rather than outside. And indeed this love is an allusion, which has inspired poets and artists of all times.
As for me, platonic love is a close spiritual bond between two people, no matter whether they are of the same sex or not. But, it has to be distinguished form the notion of “just friendship”, for me these are absolutely different things. It isn’t necessary to love all your friends. Platonic love is something much deeper that friendship. It is a special spiritual link between two people. And I am very glad that I haven’t got any platonic lovers. I prefer being in normal love or friendly relationships with someone of the opposite sex, otherwise it would be so difficult to divorce my feelings from platonic and just love and friendly. But I am sure that nothing makes romantic relationship more fruitful than being lovers and friends at the same time.
воскресенье, 22 марта 2009 г.
среда, 18 марта 2009 г.
Sacred Writing
Is sex for the sake o f sex without any relationship commitment possible?
Is platonic love the same kind of relations and feelings as friendship?
In our modern world it is very difficult to find that very man, that fits completely all your descriptions and needs. So sex without love has become absolutely possible and normal. But there is the other side of the coin. Sex is a very intimate thing. It is the relationship only for you and your parthner. It is not for discussion, no matter how many sexual parthners you've got. But personally I prefer sex and commitment relationship to be both present in my relationship. I don't like judging people, it isn't my matter. I prefer live and let other people live. Andif anyone has sex without any commitment relationship, I can understand them. There is nothing criminal or forbidden in it, it is just one of the human basic needs.
Is sex for the sake o f sex without any relationship commitment possible?
Is platonic love the same kind of relations and feelings as friendship?
In our modern world it is very difficult to find that very man, that fits completely all your descriptions and needs. So sex without love has become absolutely possible and normal. But there is the other side of the coin. Sex is a very intimate thing. It is the relationship only for you and your parthner. It is not for discussion, no matter how many sexual parthners you've got. But personally I prefer sex and commitment relationship to be both present in my relationship. I don't like judging people, it isn't my matter. I prefer live and let other people live. Andif anyone has sex without any commitment relationship, I can understand them. There is nothing criminal or forbidden in it, it is just one of the human basic needs.
среда, 11 марта 2009 г.
Why does Emma regret about her wedding?Have you ever regretted about anything you have done?
I haven't read this book, and I don't know the reasons for Emma to regret of. May be she is a kind of girls who do something at first and only then analyze their actions. So may be it was particulary her case when she realised, that she had done the wrong choice, only after the wedding. We can't judge her because we don't know the deep reasons for such a choice. May be some crucial forces bound her to get married, and it was a simple lght-heartedness, may be she thought that after weading everything would be different...
I am a kind of person who never regrets of anything that he has done. But there is one difference between Emma and me, I carefully think over all the possible consiquences which my decision may have. And if a tiny thought of regrets comes to my mind, I immediately blow it away, saying to myself: "it should be exactly this way."
I haven't read this book, and I don't know the reasons for Emma to regret of. May be she is a kind of girls who do something at first and only then analyze their actions. So may be it was particulary her case when she realised, that she had done the wrong choice, only after the wedding. We can't judge her because we don't know the deep reasons for such a choice. May be some crucial forces bound her to get married, and it was a simple lght-heartedness, may be she thought that after weading everything would be different...
I am a kind of person who never regrets of anything that he has done. But there is one difference between Emma and me, I carefully think over all the possible consiquences which my decision may have. And if a tiny thought of regrets comes to my mind, I immediately blow it away, saying to myself: "it should be exactly this way."
понедельник, 9 марта 2009 г.
Afternoon Pages
What does the word ‘parental care’ mean for you? Are there any words which you desire to tell your parents, but you are enable to do for some reasons?
We don’t choose our parents, and personally I don’t want to do this. I love my parents very much, I respect them, I can’t even imagine the other married couple as my parents. I don’t want to change anything. I appreciate my parents’ care, but even if they overdo with it, I can’t hurt them by saying: “I don’t want to hear you anymore. Let me do my own thing.” I’m especially close with my mum, she is a wise and a very kind woman who loves as no one else in this world. I’m thankful to her. My father is an ordinary man with his own merits and drawbacks. But he loves my mum and me and treats us like his two princesses. The only words I’d like to say to say to them and which I tell them very often are: “Thank you. Thank you for everything which you have done for me: for my education, for my well-being and for your efforts that you had put to make especially what I am by to date.” I do it without shyness. And we, children should remember that the words ‘I love you’ are the beat rewarding and the best cure for our parents.
The Book which Has Taught Me a Lot…
Well, to tell the truth, I am not the one who reads a lot. Maybe this is due to the lack of time, may be to my personal laziness, but I fully appreciate the valuable experience which we gain from reading books. A book is the right companion when you are alone, when you want to escape from this noisy world. Each book creates a special, intimate space, which may be absolutely different: comic, romantic, fantastic, dramatic, tragic, mysterious, fairy…I can enumerate endlessly. However, whatever the difference is, there is one clear factor: the right book is a good lesson; it’s like a school of life with its own bad and good examples, with its own patterns of human relationship, and with its own views upon life.
At present I’m reading a book by Theodore Dreiser “An American Tragedy”. I have read only one hundred and thirty pages, it is very little to attain the real understanding of the authorial idea, but I can tell that this book has taught me a lot. First of all this book has struck with it’s precise descriptive passages which build up an overwhelming sense of tragic inevitability, they show how tightly bounds the knot of human misconceptions of life and emphasize personal weaknesses which result from dangerous attaining of that fabulous ‘American Dream’. The main hero- Clyde Griffiths is a boy of weak will and little self-awareness, but the one of a very high ambition. His appetite to succeed has a destructive power, in attempts to reach his ‘American Dream’ and selection of possible ways of attain it he ruins his kind innate capacities and rescues other people who love him. But these negative features cannot be compared to the terrible sense of being ashamed of what you are, of your background and of course, which must be mentioned of your parents. At first this boy has made me fill disgustion for him, because for me it’s the worst sin in this world. I never understand such kind of people. How can you be ashamed of people who gave birth to you, who brought you to life? For me it is absolutely unbearable. Clyde’s parents were ordinary people, they weren’t heavy-drinkers, they were just poor and couldn’t give him all the trappings of wealth and even their religious occupation and ascetic lifestyle didn’t entitled the boy to be ashamed of them, to vanish the mentioning of his background.
Theodore Dreiser is a master of description, by means of precise descriptive passages we don’t only get the meaning of the plot in details, but also gain the hint of the authorial thought. This book has taught me two main things: never be ashamed of what you are, and follow straight to your aim, but while achieving this or that goal, chose very thoroughly the possible means of realizing your dreams. “Don’t harm” as it is said in the Bible.
What does the word ‘parental care’ mean for you? Are there any words which you desire to tell your parents, but you are enable to do for some reasons?
We don’t choose our parents, and personally I don’t want to do this. I love my parents very much, I respect them, I can’t even imagine the other married couple as my parents. I don’t want to change anything. I appreciate my parents’ care, but even if they overdo with it, I can’t hurt them by saying: “I don’t want to hear you anymore. Let me do my own thing.” I’m especially close with my mum, she is a wise and a very kind woman who loves as no one else in this world. I’m thankful to her. My father is an ordinary man with his own merits and drawbacks. But he loves my mum and me and treats us like his two princesses. The only words I’d like to say to say to them and which I tell them very often are: “Thank you. Thank you for everything which you have done for me: for my education, for my well-being and for your efforts that you had put to make especially what I am by to date.” I do it without shyness. And we, children should remember that the words ‘I love you’ are the beat rewarding and the best cure for our parents.
The Book which Has Taught Me a Lot…
Well, to tell the truth, I am not the one who reads a lot. Maybe this is due to the lack of time, may be to my personal laziness, but I fully appreciate the valuable experience which we gain from reading books. A book is the right companion when you are alone, when you want to escape from this noisy world. Each book creates a special, intimate space, which may be absolutely different: comic, romantic, fantastic, dramatic, tragic, mysterious, fairy…I can enumerate endlessly. However, whatever the difference is, there is one clear factor: the right book is a good lesson; it’s like a school of life with its own bad and good examples, with its own patterns of human relationship, and with its own views upon life.
At present I’m reading a book by Theodore Dreiser “An American Tragedy”. I have read only one hundred and thirty pages, it is very little to attain the real understanding of the authorial idea, but I can tell that this book has taught me a lot. First of all this book has struck with it’s precise descriptive passages which build up an overwhelming sense of tragic inevitability, they show how tightly bounds the knot of human misconceptions of life and emphasize personal weaknesses which result from dangerous attaining of that fabulous ‘American Dream’. The main hero- Clyde Griffiths is a boy of weak will and little self-awareness, but the one of a very high ambition. His appetite to succeed has a destructive power, in attempts to reach his ‘American Dream’ and selection of possible ways of attain it he ruins his kind innate capacities and rescues other people who love him. But these negative features cannot be compared to the terrible sense of being ashamed of what you are, of your background and of course, which must be mentioned of your parents. At first this boy has made me fill disgustion for him, because for me it’s the worst sin in this world. I never understand such kind of people. How can you be ashamed of people who gave birth to you, who brought you to life? For me it is absolutely unbearable. Clyde’s parents were ordinary people, they weren’t heavy-drinkers, they were just poor and couldn’t give him all the trappings of wealth and even their religious occupation and ascetic lifestyle didn’t entitled the boy to be ashamed of them, to vanish the mentioning of his background.
Theodore Dreiser is a master of description, by means of precise descriptive passages we don’t only get the meaning of the plot in details, but also gain the hint of the authorial thought. This book has taught me two main things: never be ashamed of what you are, and follow straight to your aim, but while achieving this or that goal, chose very thoroughly the possible means of realizing your dreams. “Don’t harm” as it is said in the Bible.
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